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Post by SolarGarlic 🧀 on Oct 1, 2015 11:47:46 GMT -7
I usually give cash unless there's something that I know they'll really like/want.
Sorry, I feel weird showing up with some spatulas and dish towels even though they were on your registry.
Speaking of registries, how do you guys feel about people registering for stuff like PS4's and computers and really nice cameras?
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Post by autophil74 on Oct 1, 2015 11:49:31 GMT -7
RC: crab wedding
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Post by PooDolla on Oct 1, 2015 11:51:19 GMT -7
I don't even want to know how much my dad and stepmom's wedding was. the reception was at the Brown Palace. surf and turf dinner. there were like 6 utensils on either side of the plate. i wish I was older so I could have gotten down on some of the wine that was going around.
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Post by Lakai on Oct 1, 2015 11:59:55 GMT -7
Whenever I get invited to a big wedding at some fancy pants place I just politely decline, if it sounds like a more fun, laid back wedding I'm all about it though.
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Post by ancientchad on Oct 1, 2015 12:03:01 GMT -7
I paid around 10g's for mine. It was at a winery in Middleburg and they limited us to 80 people.
It was fuckin awesome and people still tell me it was the best wedding they've ever been to.
Worth every nickle.
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Post by jambase on Oct 1, 2015 12:05:08 GMT -7
i have people that came to my wedding and didn't not give a gift... even after i bought them one for theirs...
i will never say anything but deep down i know they suck...
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Post by ancientchad on Oct 1, 2015 12:15:04 GMT -7
My wife's side of the family is not particularly concerned with the gift giving tradition...
At first I was pretty put off by it but I've come to learn its just not "something they do."
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Post by ancientchad on Oct 1, 2015 12:17:57 GMT -7
Had I known that at the time I would've limited her to only 10 guests ;-)
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2015 12:26:54 GMT -7
A wedding usually costs me about fifty bucks to attend and I don't always really have an extra fifty so if I'm putting off bills or whatever to attend you wedding, there's a good chance I'm showing up giftless. And if that's a problem, you shouldn't have invited me.
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2015 12:32:51 GMT -7
We got married in August at the Court House and went on a Caribbean Cruise the next day and then had two reception parties and never paid a dime. At the second party which was thrown by her relatives at Christmas, people gave us money. At no time did we ever ask anyone to RSVP a thing, we just sent invites and people showed up and gave us money.
The money thing wasn't a tradition that I knew about so when someone handed me the first envelope I was like "what is this for?"
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Post by jordanwonder on Oct 1, 2015 12:48:35 GMT -7
sending a bill is tacky as fuck.
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Post by ferd on Oct 1, 2015 12:50:14 GMT -7
What if the person receiving a bill had a medical emergency or something? Are you willing to risk looking like an asshole for the rest of your life for $75 or to make a point?
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Post by lerner on Oct 1, 2015 13:02:11 GMT -7
A gift can be like $5...
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Post by lerner on Oct 1, 2015 13:02:42 GMT -7
~however i have been guilty of not giving a present... my buddy kurt got married and i forgot the card... i never did give him anything...
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Post by ctanner on Oct 1, 2015 13:16:46 GMT -7
Weddings are getting more and more annoying. Especially if you're in the wedding? That shit is crazy expensive. If I ever get married I'm having a bbq/pig roast either on the beach or under a big ass tree. We did BBQ for the rehearsal dinner, I am sure it saved a fortune. But these people are ridiculous. The food was prepared for everyone, not just them, and the host was paying either way. Fuck off assholes. |
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Post by ctanner on Oct 1, 2015 13:19:01 GMT -7
...since shit happens, and sometimes you are forced to bail, you should still send your gift. Etiquette dictates you should cover the amount of your plate. Sounds like they got off cheap based on the bill amount. This is not really true in the south. But I wish I would have had northern friends after I heard how much money people throw down for a wedding gift...and many just give cash? Not so down here AT ALL. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2015 13:27:14 GMT -7
The whole idea of a wedding gift is pretty outdated anyway. I know it's polite and tradition and all but it's not like you are just moving in together, starting careers and need a bunch of dishes and shit to start your new life. Chances are you have been living together a few years and are already firmly settled into a job. If you want to upgrade the shit you already have, don't ask your friends to help you out just because you decided to exchange vows and rings. All that said, I love buying things for people when money and shopping time permit, I just don't really feel like I'm obligated to.
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Post by PooDolla on Oct 1, 2015 13:32:59 GMT -7
did you get Lerner a wedding gift?
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Post by SolarGarlic 🧀 on Oct 1, 2015 13:34:35 GMT -7
The whole idea of a wedding gift is pretty outdated anyway. I know it's polite and tradition and all but it's not like you are just moving in together, starting careers and need a bunch of dishes and shit to start your new life. Chances are you have been living together a few years and are already firmly settled into a job. If you want to upgrade the shit you already have, don't ask your friends to help you out just because you decided to exchange vows and rings. All that said, I love buying things for people when money and shopping time permit, I just don't really feel like I'm obligated to. HAHAHA My mom's family was so pissed because my aunt decided to throw this big lavish wedding when her and her new husband had been living together for over 20 years and it was the second marriage for both. She registered for stuff from Crate and Barrell and Williams Sonoma. It did not go over well. |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 1, 2015 13:34:30 GMT -7
Yeah.
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