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Post by higs on Oct 11, 2024 8:08:22 GMT -7
I got a variety of other newmexes to try next year, too.
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Post by higs on Oct 11, 2024 8:08:49 GMT -7
Should've quoted...
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Post by salmon401 on Oct 13, 2024 9:52:19 GMT -7
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Post by salmon401 on Nov 6, 2024 19:40:34 GMT -7
It’s probably a perfect storm of 3 shitty days at work, daylight savings time, and the election, but……
Fuck everyone.
Yeah, you too.
….and you in the back, and you looking at your phone, and you not making eye contact
All y’all.
I’m going to finish this cup of green tea, probably check the time, drink slightly more alcohol than I need and ……
….then do all the same shit again tomorrow.
And it’s all going to piss me off then too.
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Post by salmon401 on Nov 6, 2024 22:23:13 GMT -7
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Post by ancientchad on Nov 7, 2024 1:59:42 GMT -7
Exhausted. Can't sleep.
Great times.
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Post by ferd on Nov 7, 2024 5:03:56 GMT -7
Now that I've been off meds for a couple months I can definitely notice some changes...
Especially this time of year...I feel like a ticking time bomb a lot of the time lately.
Fuck.
I don't want to go back to medication...
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Post by Not your moms 🌮 on Nov 7, 2024 5:17:27 GMT -7
Now that I've been off meds for a couple months I can definitely notice some changes... Especially this time of year...I feel like a ticking time bomb a lot of the time lately. Fuck. I don't want to go back to medication... Good luck! Have you considered some form of strenuous activities to use as a venting mechanism? Or a controlled explosion where nobody gets offended or hurt? |
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Post by ferd on Nov 7, 2024 5:30:05 GMT -7
I would like to get more of an exercise routine going...
We're not currently in a volleyball league
I have been hunting a bunch but that involves like a 15 minute walk and then sitting for 4-5 hours
I have new tubes and tires for my bicycle...I need to get my shit together on that and go for some rides
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Post by Not your moms 🌮 on Nov 7, 2024 5:59:29 GMT -7
I would like to get more of an exercise routine going... We're not currently in a volleyball league I have been hunting a bunch but that involves like a 15 minute walk and then sitting for 4-5 hours I have new tubes and tires for my bicycle...I need to get my shit together on that and go for some rides I would go riding with you. Having 2 jobs has reduced my riding from around 100 miles a week to a few hours a week. It's the best brain meds I have. Luckily I'm super busy which is not as fun but it is an exercise in healthy dopamine control. Which is probably good. I need to force myself to ride before work and start using that planet fitness membership I never use. Hopefully you find a healthy outlet and make it work. Better than the meds. But if you need the meds that is still better than feeling shitty. |
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Post by GBK2point0 on Nov 7, 2024 6:02:56 GMT -7
My wife has not been ok. She is already INCREDIBLY hormonal. A lot more than she was in her last 2 pregnancies. She's been lashing out more frequently and is a lot more easily annoyed by literally everything. She needs to talk to someone but at this point she is so angry with the world she is ok with just cutting everyone out of her life, especially Trump supporters.
Yesterday she told our kids that my parents are stupid for voting for Trump, which they've done in the last 3 elections. I, off course, don't agree with my parents political views, but they are not Qanon nut jobs but they are lifelong republicans and they will continue to support their party, sometimes blindly. I was incredibly angry with her saying that and it started a fight, one of many we have had lately, which has not been resolved and probably won't until I get home from job 2 at like 8 pm tonight.
I understand being upset, I understand the anxiety that goes with it, but we try to teach our children good and try to teach them not to hate, and her calling my parents stupid in front of the kids and, in front of them, showing no apology or remorse did not make me happy, especially since Berg is absolutely obsessed with her mom and hangs on to every word she says (impressionable doesn't even begin to cut it, she wants to be her mom in every way). I know Berg will repeat the statement to my parents eventually.
I love my wife very much but the one thing I hate about her family, specifically Dad, is that he finds any reason to cut people out of his life and will not talk to them for years, or even decades, for example he has not talked to his sister in almost 25 years other than when his ex died. In the last week or so my wife has started doing the same. She stopped talking to her best friend over something incredibly petty. One of her oldest childhood best friends is a Trump supporter and comes from a family of lifelong republicans and yesterday she started blocking her on all social media and yesterday she was talking about no longer wanting to be around half of my family because of their political affiliation. The thing is, nothing has changed, my family has had the same views in 2016. I just don't know what to do anymore and I don't know what to say.
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Post by ferd on Nov 7, 2024 6:07:31 GMT -7
I would like to get more of an exercise routine going... We're not currently in a volleyball league I have been hunting a bunch but that involves like a 15 minute walk and then sitting for 4-5 hours I have new tubes and tires for my bicycle...I need to get my shit together on that and go for some rides I would go riding with you. Having 2 jobs has reduced my riding from around 100 miles a week to a few hours a week. It's the best brain meds I have. Luckily I'm super busy which is not as fun but it is an exercise in healthy dopamine control. Which is probably good. I need to force myself to ride before work and start using that planet fitness membership I never use. Hopefully you find a healthy outlet and make it work. Better than the meds. But if you need the meds that is still better than feeling shitty. Yeah man, I would ride with you too! |
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Post by ferd on Nov 7, 2024 6:10:20 GMT -7
Gerg, I totally get where you're coming from...I think you should do your very best to remember that she isn't entirely in control right now.
Those pregnancy hormones can be motherfuckers and every pregnancy is different.
I'm sure in a week or two things will settle down...
Until then, feel free to vent here because you gotta let it out or it will ruin you.
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Post by Not your moms 🌮 on Nov 7, 2024 6:11:36 GMT -7
My wife has not been ok. She is already INCREDIBLY hormonal. A lot more than she was in her last 2 pregnancies. She's been lashing out more frequently and is a lot more easily annoyed by literally everything. She needs to talk to someone but at this point she is so angry with the world she is ok with just cutting everyone out of her life, especially Trump supporters. Yesterday she told our kids that my parents are stupid for voting for Trump, which they've done in the last 3 elections. I, off course, don't agree with my parents political views, but they are not Qanon nut jobs but they are lifelong republicans and they will continue to support their party, sometimes blindly. I was incredibly angry with her saying that and it started a fight, one of many we have had lately, which has not been resolved and probably won't until I get home from job 2 at like 8 pm tonight. I understand being upset, I understand the anxiety that goes with it, but we try to teach our children good and try to teach them not to hate, and her calling my parents stupid in front of the kids and, in front of them, showing no apology or remorse did not make me happy, especially since Berg is absolutely obsessed with her mom and hangs on to every word she says (impressionable doesn't even begin to cut it, she wants to be her mom in every way). I know Berg will repeat the statement to my parents eventually. I love my wife very much but the one thing I hate about her family, specifically Dad, is that he finds any reason to cut people out of his life and will not talk to them for years, or even decades, for example he has not talked to his sister in almost 25 years other than when his ex died. In the last week or so my wife has started doing the same. She stopped talking to her best friend over something incredibly petty. One of her oldest childhood best friends is a Trump supporter and comes from a family of lifelong republicans and yesterday she started blocking her on all social media and yesterday she was talking about no longer wanting to be around half of my family because of their political affiliation. The thing is, nothing has changed, my family has had the same views in 2016. I just don't know what to do anymore and I don't know what to say. The best I can suggest is to remind her that the hatred and division the people on the right support is their most toxic trait. As hard as it is to want to treat them kindly sometimes, it only encourages them and at the same time lowers us to their level if at the very least we cannot be less hateful than they are. Not the easy solution. But I have learned calling them stupid and racist only makes them more defensive and doesn't result in anything positive. Even if some of them are stupid and racist. I believe most are just confused and fooled. |
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Post by Not your moms 🌮 on Nov 7, 2024 6:13:25 GMT -7
I would go riding with you. Having 2 jobs has reduced my riding from around 100 miles a week to a few hours a week. It's the best brain meds I have. Luckily I'm super busy which is not as fun but it is an exercise in healthy dopamine control. Which is probably good. I need to force myself to ride before work and start using that planet fitness membership I never use. Hopefully you find a healthy outlet and make it work. Better than the meds. But if you need the meds that is still better than feeling shitty. Yeah man, I would ride with you too! Maybe I'll make that a goal for the spring or summer. A few days on one of the canal trails and some fat joints with Ferd and dpb. |
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Post by ferd on Nov 7, 2024 6:18:31 GMT -7
That would be rad!
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Post by treetophigh on Nov 7, 2024 6:25:59 GMT -7
As catastrophic as this Trump term could be, being hysterical and inviting so much negative energy INTO our life and then expressing it toward folks that both do and don't deserve the feedback will just continue to crumble the folks struggling with this political angst. I see it all around me and really hope that folks can see that this doesn't have to define the scope we view our lives and shouldn't have to shape our family, friend and peer relationships.
In the end, we need to make active decisions on how we live our lives and that alone will bring more peace to our world view. I think often the folks that are most loud about political angst use the political conversation as a way to avoid personal action.
Idk, I'm sure I'm just insensitive because I can sort of manage regardless and have less to lose personally but I also know hysteria,unchecked angst, and alienating folks around me will not change or help anything or anyone including myself or my loved ones.
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Post by treetophigh on Nov 7, 2024 6:29:39 GMT -7
I still haven't gotten my bike in the shop. After this long weekend with travel (stoked!) I have 2 weeks before another long travel week so maybe I'll get my bike situated then. I also just picked up a canoe and need to get paddle and pfds so that will be nice once spring rolls around.
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Post by Not your moms 🌮 on Nov 7, 2024 6:33:43 GMT -7
I still haven't gotten my bike in the shop. After this long weekend with travel (stoked!) I have 2 weeks before another long travel week so maybe I'll get my bike situated then. I also just picked up a canoe and need to get paddle and pfds so that will be nice once spring rolls around. Do it! |
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Post by GBK2point0 on Nov 7, 2024 6:41:19 GMT -7
Gerg, I totally get where you're coming from...I think you should do your very best to remember that she isn't entirely in control right now. Those pregnancy hormones can be motherfuckers and every pregnancy is different. I'm sure in a week or two things will settle down... Until then, feel free to vent here because you gotta let it out or it will ruin you. The problem is that this has been on off for a couple months now. I understand that her hormones aren't exactly all 'her' and she will recognize and admit that. What irks me is that she will get upset, start a fight and show little to no remorse, sometimes, when it is, somewhat, resolved. It's just scary to me because its becoming more and more like her dad. I have vented about this man before and those that know me well outside of jambase know how despicable i think this man is and how he has done a lot to effect my wife's overall well being. The best example i can give you to that is that my wife had lost 95 lbs in the last 2 years. Now that she is pregnant she has obviously gained some weight back but nowhere near 95 pounds. Regardless, she has already said she doesn't want to see her dad through the whole pregnancy and after the baby is born until she is "skinny" again because she doesn't want her dad to insult her about how fat she's gotten, again. I just drives me absolutely crazy that she can't stand the kind of person he is to her, yet she can act the same way towards me or my family. I don't know what to do, I really just want to tell her to get help. I certainly am not perfect and my emotions can easily take over so it's incredibly hard for me to just take a back seat and say "oh it's just your hormones, you'll be ok in a week" I just hope i get some sort of half assed apology text from her later stating she was wrong for calling my parents stupid, and I'd like to think she will be having a talk with the girls this morning stating that what she said about my parents, in the car, is not ok. |
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